Love vs. Arranged
Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arrange marriages. In India the social structure is such that we associate Indian marriages mainly with arrange marriages. Most of us have the feelings that arrange marriage is the concept of Indian society. But history tells us that arranged marriages use to happen even in the Victorian age. The history of England tells us that most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages. In India arrange marriages originated when child marriages was customary in the country. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn't want their children to marry outside their community and caste. The concept of love marriage was a taboo in ancient India as India always had a tradition of arranged marriages. But after World War II and industrial revolution people's perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. In India the influence of the British culture gave rise to love marriages. The idea, which was once a taboo, became more open and acceptable in the Indian society. But this change was seen only among the educated and high society Indians. The rural parts of the country remained ignorant and unaware of love marriages. In spite of the social changes arranged marriage persisted.Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate on the issue, which one is better. What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? We are still confused about these issues. Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. As people started thinking beyond the social customs and traditions of arranged marriages. They realized that they have the right to choose their life partner without any kind of social pressure. It is after all their life. They can decide without having to rely on parents, relatives and matchmakers. This change in the mental set up of the people gave birth to love marriages. Now in India people are open to love marriages. It is no more forbidden in the society. In our country we are having both love and arranged marriages. If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both has certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concept is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy likes each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend the life together it is important you know the person. There should be metal compatibility and understanding among both of you. And this happens when you spend time together. On this people may argue that even after knowing each other for so long than why people get divorced after marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. As most of the people have an idea that those who go for arranged marriages are not in an advantageous position but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them knows each other so the social pressure and family pressure is less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.Arranged marriages, offer more protection, security to the women. As the parents decides the family. Parents make use of maturity and wise decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The mature decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. So whether it is love or arranged ultimately it is up to the individual to decide, which one to go for. Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.
Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arrange marriages. In India the social structure is such that we associate Indian marriages mainly with arrange marriages. Most of us have the feelings that arrange marriage is the concept of Indian society. But history tells us that arranged marriages use to happen even in the Victorian age. The history of England tells us that most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages. In India arrange marriages originated when child marriages was customary in the country. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn't want their children to marry outside their community and caste. The concept of love marriage was a taboo in ancient India as India always had a tradition of arranged marriages. But after World War II and industrial revolution people's perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. In India the influence of the British culture gave rise to love marriages. The idea, which was once a taboo, became more open and acceptable in the Indian society. But this change was seen only among the educated and high society Indians. The rural parts of the country remained ignorant and unaware of love marriages. In spite of the social changes arranged marriage persisted.Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate on the issue, which one is better. What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? We are still confused about these issues. Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. As people started thinking beyond the social customs and traditions of arranged marriages. They realized that they have the right to choose their life partner without any kind of social pressure. It is after all their life. They can decide without having to rely on parents, relatives and matchmakers. This change in the mental set up of the people gave birth to love marriages. Now in India people are open to love marriages. It is no more forbidden in the society. In our country we are having both love and arranged marriages. If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both has certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concept is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy likes each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend the life together it is important you know the person. There should be metal compatibility and understanding among both of you. And this happens when you spend time together. On this people may argue that even after knowing each other for so long than why people get divorced after marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. As most of the people have an idea that those who go for arranged marriages are not in an advantageous position but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them knows each other so the social pressure and family pressure is less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.Arranged marriages, offer more protection, security to the women. As the parents decides the family. Parents make use of maturity and wise decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The mature decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. So whether it is love or arranged ultimately it is up to the individual to decide, which one to go for. Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.
Funny Love Quotes
The sincerest love is the love of food.
Bernard Shaw .
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Marrying for love may be a bit risky, but it is so honest that God can't help but smile on it.
Josh Billings
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When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: either the car is new or the wife is.
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Love may be blind but marriage is a real eye-opener! Unknown
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The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What ..does a woman want?''
-- Freud
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Then there was a man who said, "I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; by then it was too late."
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I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.
David Bissonette
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When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him
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Do not marry a man to reform him. That is what reform schools are for."
Mae West
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Love is temporary insanity curable by marriage.
Ambrose Bierce
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Behind every successful man stands a surprised mother-in-law
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Man is better off than woman; he marries later and dies sooner
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Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
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Marriage is the process of finding out what kind of person your spouse would have really preferred
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Bachelors should be heavily taxed. It is not fair that some men should be happier than others.
-Oscar Wilde
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A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished.—
Zsa Zsa Gabor
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My wife and I were happy for 20 years - then we met.
-Rodney Dangerfield
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The most happy marriage I can picture would be the union of a deaf man to a blind woman.
Coleridge
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One good husband is worth two good wives; for the scarcer things are, the more they are valued.
Benjamin Franklin
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.The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. -Henry Youngman
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Whatever you may look like, marry a man your own age - as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight. Phyllis Diller
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If husbands could realize what large returns of profit may be gotten out of a wife by a small word of praise paid over the counter when the market is just right, they would bring matters around the way they wish them much oftener than they usually do.
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If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?
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Arguments are unsafe with wives, because they examine them; but they do not examine compliments. One can pass upon a wife a compliment that is three-fourths base metal; she will not even bite it to see if it is good; all she notices is the size of it, not the quality.Hellfire Hotchkiss
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All tragedies are finished by a death, all comedies by a marriage.
Lord Byron
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"My wife has a slight impediment in her speech. Every now and then she stops to breathe." Jimmy Durante.
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Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed. -- Albert Einstein - Funny Love Quotes
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Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering. Anonymous
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Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to his success. -- Jim Backus
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Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who'll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you're in the wrong house, that's what it means." George Burns.
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Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close knit family in another city." George Burns.
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I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn't." Patrick Murray.
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In my house I'm the boss, my wife is just the decision maker." Woody Allen.
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthdayis to forget it once
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Yawn - Nature's way of letting married men open their mouths
Anon
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I married Miss Right. I just didn't know her first name was Always.
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I asked my wife where she wanted to go for our anniversary. "Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!" she said.So I suggested the kitchen.
***********
Marriage is not a word; it is a sentence
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A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
Milton Berle
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A wife is someone who'll stand by you through all the trouble you wouldn't have had if you'd stayed single.
The sincerest love is the love of food.
Bernard Shaw .
***********
Marrying for love may be a bit risky, but it is so honest that God can't help but smile on it.
Josh Billings
***********
When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: either the car is new or the wife is.
***********
Love may be blind but marriage is a real eye-opener! Unknown
***********
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What ..does a woman want?''
-- Freud
***********
Then there was a man who said, "I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; by then it was too late."
***********
I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.
David Bissonette
***********
When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him
***********
Do not marry a man to reform him. That is what reform schools are for."
Mae West
***********
Love is temporary insanity curable by marriage.
Ambrose Bierce
***********
Behind every successful man stands a surprised mother-in-law
***********
Man is better off than woman; he marries later and dies sooner
***********
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
***********
Marriage is the process of finding out what kind of person your spouse would have really preferred
***********
Bachelors should be heavily taxed. It is not fair that some men should be happier than others.
-Oscar Wilde
***********
A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished.—
Zsa Zsa Gabor
***********
My wife and I were happy for 20 years - then we met.
-Rodney Dangerfield
***********
The most happy marriage I can picture would be the union of a deaf man to a blind woman.
Coleridge
***********
One good husband is worth two good wives; for the scarcer things are, the more they are valued.
Benjamin Franklin
***********
.The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. -Henry Youngman
***********
Whatever you may look like, marry a man your own age - as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight. Phyllis Diller
***********
If husbands could realize what large returns of profit may be gotten out of a wife by a small word of praise paid over the counter when the market is just right, they would bring matters around the way they wish them much oftener than they usually do.
***********
If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?
***********
Arguments are unsafe with wives, because they examine them; but they do not examine compliments. One can pass upon a wife a compliment that is three-fourths base metal; she will not even bite it to see if it is good; all she notices is the size of it, not the quality.Hellfire Hotchkiss
***********
All tragedies are finished by a death, all comedies by a marriage.
Lord Byron
***********
"My wife has a slight impediment in her speech. Every now and then she stops to breathe." Jimmy Durante.
***********
Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed. -- Albert Einstein - Funny Love Quotes
***********
Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering. Anonymous
***********
Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to his success. -- Jim Backus
***********
Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who'll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you're in the wrong house, that's what it means." George Burns.
***********
Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close knit family in another city." George Burns.
***********
I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn't." Patrick Murray.
***********
In my house I'm the boss, my wife is just the decision maker." Woody Allen.
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthdayis to forget it once
***********
Yawn - Nature's way of letting married men open their mouths
Anon
***********
I married Miss Right. I just didn't know her first name was Always.
***********
I asked my wife where she wanted to go for our anniversary. "Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!" she said.So I suggested the kitchen.
***********
Marriage is not a word; it is a sentence
***********
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
Milton Berle
***********
A wife is someone who'll stand by you through all the trouble you wouldn't have had if you'd stayed single.
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