I'm Falling"
Falling dreams are another theme that is quite common in the world of dreams. Contrary to a popular myth, you will not actually die if you do not wake up before your hit the ground during a fall.As with most common dream themes, falling is an indication of insecurities, instabilities, and anxieties. You are feeling overwhelmed and out of control in some situation in your waking life. This may reflect the way you feel in your relationship or in your work environment. You have lost your foothold and can not hang on or keep up with the hustle and bustle of daily life.?When you fall, there is nothing that you can hold on to. You more or less are forced toward this downward motion without any control. This lost of control may parallel a waking situation in your life. Falling dreams also often reflect a sense of failure or inferiority in some circumstance or situation. It may be the fear of failing in your job/school, loss of status, or failure in love.?You feel shameful and lack a sense of pride. You are unable to keep up with the status quo or that you don't measure up.According to Freudian theory, dreams of falling indicate that you are contemplating giving into a sexual urge or impulse. You maybe lacking indiscretion.Falling dreams typically occur during the first stage of sleep. Dreams in this stage are often accompanied by muscle spasms of the arms, legs, and the whole body. These sudden contractions, also known as myclonic jerks. Sometimes when we have these falling dreams, we feel our whole body jerk or twitch and we awaken from this jerk. It is thought that this jerking action is part of an arousal mechanism that allows the sleeper to awaken and become quickly alert and responsive to possible threats in the environment.According to biblical interpretations, dreams about falling have a negative overtone and suggest that man is acting and walking according to his own way of thinking and not those of the Lord.
Tuesday 19 May 2009
what dreams really mean?............
I'm Falling"
Falling dreams are another theme that is quite common in the world of dreams. Contrary to a popular myth, you will not actually die if you do not wake up before your hit the ground during a fall.As with most common dream themes, falling is an indication of insecurities, instabilities, and anxieties. You are feeling overwhelmed and out of control in some situation in your waking life. This may reflect the way you feel in your relationship or in your work environment. You have lost your foothold and can not hang on or keep up with the hustle and bustle of daily life.?When you fall, there is nothing that you can hold on to. You more or less are forced toward this downward motion without any control. This lost of control may parallel a waking situation in your life. Falling dreams also often reflect a sense of failure or inferiority in some circumstance or situation. It may be the fear of failing in your job/school, loss of status, or failure in love.?You feel shameful and lack a sense of pride. You are unable to keep up with the status quo or that you don't measure up.According to Freudian theory, dreams of falling indicate that you are contemplating giving into a sexual urge or impulse. You maybe lacking indiscretion.Falling dreams typically occur during the first stage of sleep. Dreams in this stage are often accompanied by muscle spasms of the arms, legs, and the whole body. These sudden contractions, also known as myclonic jerks. Sometimes when we have these falling dreams, we feel our whole body jerk or twitch and we awaken from this jerk. It is thought that this jerking action is part of an arousal mechanism that allows the sleeper to awaken and become quickly alert and responsive to possible threats in the environment.According to biblical interpretations, dreams about falling have a negative overtone and suggest that man is acting and walking according to his own way of thinking and not those of the Lord.
Falling dreams are another theme that is quite common in the world of dreams. Contrary to a popular myth, you will not actually die if you do not wake up before your hit the ground during a fall.As with most common dream themes, falling is an indication of insecurities, instabilities, and anxieties. You are feeling overwhelmed and out of control in some situation in your waking life. This may reflect the way you feel in your relationship or in your work environment. You have lost your foothold and can not hang on or keep up with the hustle and bustle of daily life.?When you fall, there is nothing that you can hold on to. You more or less are forced toward this downward motion without any control. This lost of control may parallel a waking situation in your life. Falling dreams also often reflect a sense of failure or inferiority in some circumstance or situation. It may be the fear of failing in your job/school, loss of status, or failure in love.?You feel shameful and lack a sense of pride. You are unable to keep up with the status quo or that you don't measure up.According to Freudian theory, dreams of falling indicate that you are contemplating giving into a sexual urge or impulse. You maybe lacking indiscretion.Falling dreams typically occur during the first stage of sleep. Dreams in this stage are often accompanied by muscle spasms of the arms, legs, and the whole body. These sudden contractions, also known as myclonic jerks. Sometimes when we have these falling dreams, we feel our whole body jerk or twitch and we awaken from this jerk. It is thought that this jerking action is part of an arousal mechanism that allows the sleeper to awaken and become quickly alert and responsive to possible threats in the environment.According to biblical interpretations, dreams about falling have a negative overtone and suggest that man is acting and walking according to his own way of thinking and not those of the Lord.
what dreams reallly mean.......
Welcome to Dream Moods
You are entering a mysterious and fascinating world of dreams where the rules of reality do not apply. We hope that Dream Moods will help you make sense of your dreams and achieve a better understanding of them. We're dedicated to helping you find the key to unlocking and interpreting the meanings to your dreams. By understanding your dreams, you will gain a better perspective on your life.
We realize that your dreams are unique. No other individual can have your background, your emotions, or your experiences. Every dream is connected with your own "reality". Thus, in interpreting your dreams, it is important to draw from your personal life and experiences.
Remember that a dream unifies the body, mind, and spirit. It provides you with insight into ourselves and a means for self-exploration. In understanding your dreams, you will have a better understanding and discovery of your true self. So stay awhile -- explore, discover, have fun, make friends, and find out what's in YOUR dream?!
flyingintro "I'm Flying"
Flying dreams fall under a category of dreams known as lucid dreaming. Lucid dreams occur when you become aware that you are dreaming. Many dreamers describe the ability to fly in their dreams as an exhilarating, joyful, and liberating experience.If you are flying with ease and enjoying the scene and landscape below, then it suggests that you are on top of a situation. You have risen above something. It may also mean that you have gained a different perspective on things. Flying dreams and the ability to control your flight is representative of your own personal sense of power.Having difficulties staying in flight indicates a lack of power in controlling your own circumstances. You may be struggling to stay aloft and stay on course. Things like power lines, trees, or mountains may further obstruct your flight. These barriers represent a particular obstacle or person who is standing in your way in your waking life. You need to identify who or what is hindering you from moving forward. It may also be an indication of a lack of confidence. You need to believe in yourself and not be afraid.If you are feeling fear when you are flying or that you feel that you are flying too high, then it suggests that you are afraid of challenges and of success.In reality, we cannot really fly, of course. Thus, such dreams may represent that which is beyond your physical limitations. In your mind, you can be anybody and do anything. Another way of interpreting flying dreams is that these dreams symbolize your strong mind and will. You feel undefeatable and nobody can tell you what you cannot do and accomplish. Undoubtedly these dreams leave you a great sense of freedom.
I'm Falling"
Falling dreams are another theme that is quite common in the world of dreams. Contrary to a popular myth, you will not actually die if you do not wake up before your hit the ground during a fall.As with most common dream themes, falling is an indication of insecurities, instabilities, and anxieties. You are feeling overwhelmed and out of control in some situation in your waking life. This may reflect the way you feel in your relationship or in your work environment. You have lost your foothold and can not hang on or keep up with the hustle and bustle of daily life.?When you fall, there is nothing that you can hold on to. You more or less are forced toward this downward motion without any control. This lost of control may parallel a waking situation in your life. Falling dreams also often reflect a sense of failure or inferiority in some circumstance or situation. It may be the fear of failing in your job/school, loss of status, or failure in love.?You feel shameful and lack a sense of pride. You are unable to keep up with the status quo or that you don't measure up.According to Freudian theory, dreams of falling indicate that you are contemplating giving into a sexual urge or impulse. You maybe lacking indiscretion.Falling dreams typically occur during the first stage of sleep. Dreams in this stage are often accompanied by muscle spasms of the arms, legs, and the whole body. These sudden contractions, also known as myclonic jerks. Sometimes when we have these falling dreams, we feel our whole body jerk or twitch and we awaken from this jerk. It is thought that this jerking action is part of an arousal mechanism that allows the sleeper to awaken and become quickly alert and responsive to possible threats in the environment.According to biblical interpretations, dreams about falling have a negative overtone and suggest that man is acting and walking according to his own way of thinking and not those of the Lord.
You are entering a mysterious and fascinating world of dreams where the rules of reality do not apply. We hope that Dream Moods will help you make sense of your dreams and achieve a better understanding of them. We're dedicated to helping you find the key to unlocking and interpreting the meanings to your dreams. By understanding your dreams, you will gain a better perspective on your life.
We realize that your dreams are unique. No other individual can have your background, your emotions, or your experiences. Every dream is connected with your own "reality". Thus, in interpreting your dreams, it is important to draw from your personal life and experiences.
Remember that a dream unifies the body, mind, and spirit. It provides you with insight into ourselves and a means for self-exploration. In understanding your dreams, you will have a better understanding and discovery of your true self. So stay awhile -- explore, discover, have fun, make friends, and find out what's in YOUR dream?!
flyingintro "I'm Flying"
Flying dreams fall under a category of dreams known as lucid dreaming. Lucid dreams occur when you become aware that you are dreaming. Many dreamers describe the ability to fly in their dreams as an exhilarating, joyful, and liberating experience.If you are flying with ease and enjoying the scene and landscape below, then it suggests that you are on top of a situation. You have risen above something. It may also mean that you have gained a different perspective on things. Flying dreams and the ability to control your flight is representative of your own personal sense of power.Having difficulties staying in flight indicates a lack of power in controlling your own circumstances. You may be struggling to stay aloft and stay on course. Things like power lines, trees, or mountains may further obstruct your flight. These barriers represent a particular obstacle or person who is standing in your way in your waking life. You need to identify who or what is hindering you from moving forward. It may also be an indication of a lack of confidence. You need to believe in yourself and not be afraid.If you are feeling fear when you are flying or that you feel that you are flying too high, then it suggests that you are afraid of challenges and of success.In reality, we cannot really fly, of course. Thus, such dreams may represent that which is beyond your physical limitations. In your mind, you can be anybody and do anything. Another way of interpreting flying dreams is that these dreams symbolize your strong mind and will. You feel undefeatable and nobody can tell you what you cannot do and accomplish. Undoubtedly these dreams leave you a great sense of freedom.
I'm Falling"
Falling dreams are another theme that is quite common in the world of dreams. Contrary to a popular myth, you will not actually die if you do not wake up before your hit the ground during a fall.As with most common dream themes, falling is an indication of insecurities, instabilities, and anxieties. You are feeling overwhelmed and out of control in some situation in your waking life. This may reflect the way you feel in your relationship or in your work environment. You have lost your foothold and can not hang on or keep up with the hustle and bustle of daily life.?When you fall, there is nothing that you can hold on to. You more or less are forced toward this downward motion without any control. This lost of control may parallel a waking situation in your life. Falling dreams also often reflect a sense of failure or inferiority in some circumstance or situation. It may be the fear of failing in your job/school, loss of status, or failure in love.?You feel shameful and lack a sense of pride. You are unable to keep up with the status quo or that you don't measure up.According to Freudian theory, dreams of falling indicate that you are contemplating giving into a sexual urge or impulse. You maybe lacking indiscretion.Falling dreams typically occur during the first stage of sleep. Dreams in this stage are often accompanied by muscle spasms of the arms, legs, and the whole body. These sudden contractions, also known as myclonic jerks. Sometimes when we have these falling dreams, we feel our whole body jerk or twitch and we awaken from this jerk. It is thought that this jerking action is part of an arousal mechanism that allows the sleeper to awaken and become quickly alert and responsive to possible threats in the environment.According to biblical interpretations, dreams about falling have a negative overtone and suggest that man is acting and walking according to his own way of thinking and not those of the Lord.
Monday 18 May 2009
funny love quotes...
To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anesthesia." - H.L. Mencken
"Once you have loved someone, you'd do anything in the world for them... except love them again." - Anonymous
"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous
"Love has the power of making you believe what you would normally treat with the deepest suspicion." - Mirabeau
"Three things can't be hidden: coughing, poverty, and love." - Yiddish proverb
"The most wasted day is that in which we have not laughed." - Chamfort
"I detest 'love lyrics.' I think one of the causes of bad mental health in the United States is that people have been raised on 'love lyrics." - Frank Zappa
"You'd be surprised how much it costs to look this cheap." - Dolly Parton
"I should like to see any kind of a man, distinguishable from a gorilla, that some good and even pretty woman could not shape a husband out of." - Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
"A woman might as well propose: her husband will claim she did." - Edgar Watson Howe
"I feel like Zsa Zsa Gabor's eighth husband on her wedding night: I know what I'm supposed to do...I just have to figure out a way to make it interesting." - many attributions
"No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying." - unknown
"An old man who marries a young wife grows younger - but she grows older." - folk saying
"It is not uncommon for slight acquaintances to get married, but a couple really have to know each other to get divorced." - Anonymous
"What female heart can despise gold?" - Thomas Gray
"A lady of 47 who has been married 27 years and has six children knows what love really is and once described it for me like this: 'Love is what you've been through with somebody.'" - James Thurber
"I love being married. It's so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life." - Rita Rudner
"The people people have for friends Your common sense appall But the people people marry Are the queerest folk of all." - Charlotte Perkins Gilman
"Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker
"Do not marry a man to reform him. That is what reform schools are for." - Mae West
"The body, she says, is subject to the forces of gravity. But the soul is ruled by levity, pure." - Saul Bellow
"It does not matter what you do in the bedroom as long as you do not do it in the street and frighten the horses." - Mrs. Patrick Campbell
"A happy home is one in which each spouse grants the possibility that the other may be right, though neither believes it." - Don Fraser
"If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?" - unknown
"There are three kinds of men who do not understand women: Young, old, and middle-aged." - Anonymous (and with good reason)
"Women like me because I make them laugh. And what is an orgasm, except laughter of the loins?" - Mickey Rooney
"There will be sex after death, we just won't be able to feel it." - Lily Tomlin
"A bride at her second wedding does not wear a veil. She wants to see what she is getting." - Helen Rowland
"Don't threaten me with love, Baby. Let's just go walking in the rain." - Billie Holiday
"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song, A medley of extemporanea; And love is a thing that can never go wrong; And I am Marie of Roumania." - Dorothy Parker
"Marriage is a fine institution - but I'm not ready for an institution." - Mae West
"My heart's in the right place. I know, 'cuz I hid it there." - Carrie Fisher
"My wife and I have sex almost every day of the week," Milton Berle once said. "Yes, almost Monday, almost Tuesday, almost Wednesday."
"If you do kiss a politician, remember this: You are not only kissing him, you are kissing every butt that he has kissed in the last eight years." - Jay Leno
"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." - Woody Allen, Love and Death
"To laugh often and love much... to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to give one's self... this is to have succeeded." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"We cannot really love anybody without whom we never laugh." - Alice Reppler
"Once you have loved someone, you'd do anything in the world for them... except love them again." - Anonymous
"Love is like war: Easy to begin but hard to end." - Anonymous
"Love has the power of making you believe what you would normally treat with the deepest suspicion." - Mirabeau
"Three things can't be hidden: coughing, poverty, and love." - Yiddish proverb
"The most wasted day is that in which we have not laughed." - Chamfort
"I detest 'love lyrics.' I think one of the causes of bad mental health in the United States is that people have been raised on 'love lyrics." - Frank Zappa
"You'd be surprised how much it costs to look this cheap." - Dolly Parton
"I should like to see any kind of a man, distinguishable from a gorilla, that some good and even pretty woman could not shape a husband out of." - Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.
"A woman might as well propose: her husband will claim she did." - Edgar Watson Howe
"I feel like Zsa Zsa Gabor's eighth husband on her wedding night: I know what I'm supposed to do...I just have to figure out a way to make it interesting." - many attributions
"No man is truly married until he understands every word his wife is NOT saying." - unknown
"An old man who marries a young wife grows younger - but she grows older." - folk saying
"It is not uncommon for slight acquaintances to get married, but a couple really have to know each other to get divorced." - Anonymous
"What female heart can despise gold?" - Thomas Gray
"A lady of 47 who has been married 27 years and has six children knows what love really is and once described it for me like this: 'Love is what you've been through with somebody.'" - James Thurber
"I love being married. It's so great to find one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life." - Rita Rudner
"The people people have for friends Your common sense appall But the people people marry Are the queerest folk of all." - Charlotte Perkins Gilman
"Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker
"Do not marry a man to reform him. That is what reform schools are for." - Mae West
"The body, she says, is subject to the forces of gravity. But the soul is ruled by levity, pure." - Saul Bellow
"It does not matter what you do in the bedroom as long as you do not do it in the street and frighten the horses." - Mrs. Patrick Campbell
"A happy home is one in which each spouse grants the possibility that the other may be right, though neither believes it." - Don Fraser
"If love is blind, why is lingerie so popular?" - unknown
"There are three kinds of men who do not understand women: Young, old, and middle-aged." - Anonymous (and with good reason)
"Women like me because I make them laugh. And what is an orgasm, except laughter of the loins?" - Mickey Rooney
"There will be sex after death, we just won't be able to feel it." - Lily Tomlin
"A bride at her second wedding does not wear a veil. She wants to see what she is getting." - Helen Rowland
"Don't threaten me with love, Baby. Let's just go walking in the rain." - Billie Holiday
"Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song, A medley of extemporanea; And love is a thing that can never go wrong; And I am Marie of Roumania." - Dorothy Parker
"Marriage is a fine institution - but I'm not ready for an institution." - Mae West
"My heart's in the right place. I know, 'cuz I hid it there." - Carrie Fisher
"My wife and I have sex almost every day of the week," Milton Berle once said. "Yes, almost Monday, almost Tuesday, almost Wednesday."
"If you do kiss a politician, remember this: You are not only kissing him, you are kissing every butt that he has kissed in the last eight years." - Jay Leno
"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." - Woody Allen, Love and Death
"To laugh often and love much... to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to give one's self... this is to have succeeded." - Ralph Waldo Emerson
"We cannot really love anybody without whom we never laugh." - Alice Reppler
Graffiti is writing, drawing, or symbols applied to any surface without the permission of the property owner.
To create graffiti, vandals use a variety of materials, such as automotive car paint, spray paint, crayons and permanent ink. Etching surfaces is another way vandals destroy property.
Graffiti can occur anywhere, however, some of the more popular targets include:
public and private buildings
recreational facilities
Canada Post mailboxes
playground equipment
bridges and overpasses
public transit property and vehicles.
Graffiti is an act of vandalism that places a significant burden on the Municipality’s budget. Graffiti may also cause local property values to decrease and can result in a heightened fear of crime in the community.
Graffiti in HRM
HRM doubled it's graffiti removal team from 2 to 4 full-time staff in August 2006.
HRM has removed approximately 300,000 sq. ft. of graffiti since the Graffiti Eradication Program launch in 2003.
HRM Call Centre received and resonded to 295 calls.
Cost of Graffiti to HRM
Economic Cost
Destroys property
Reduces property values
Social Cost
Diverts tax dollars from the delivery of other HRM services
Promotes an undesirable image of our city to visitors
Undermines residents and visitors sense of security and safety
Looks as if "nobody cares" about the area
By removing graffiti quickly and consistently we are showing the pride we have in our community.
If you remove graffiti within...
24 hours - there is a 10% chance it will reappear.
2 weeks - there is a 100% chance it will reappear.
Graffiti Terminology
tagging - style of calligraphy writing used as an identification mark.
throw-ups - "fat" bubble style outline of a word (usually a tag name) drawn quickly.
political or social comments - slogans used to signal concern about particular issues.
piece - generally a more complex work involving some form of "artistry". They are usually a highly stylized and colorful version of a tag or crew name.
etching - scratching of a surface through use of rock, etching tools and/or sharp objects.
HRM doubled it's graffiti removal team from 2 to 4 full-time staff in August 2006.
HRM has removed approximately 300,000 sq. ft. of graffiti since the Graffiti Eradication Program launch in 2003.
HRM Call Centre received and resonded to 295 calls.
Cost of Graffiti to HRM
Economic Cost
Destroys property
Reduces property values
Social Cost
Diverts tax dollars from the delivery of other HRM services
Promotes an undesirable image of our city to visitors
Undermines residents and visitors sense of security and safety
Looks as if "nobody cares" about the area
By removing graffiti quickly and consistently we are showing the pride we have in our community.
If you remove graffiti within...
24 hours - there is a 10% chance it will reappear.
2 weeks - there is a 100% chance it will reappear.
Graffiti Terminology
tagging - style of calligraphy writing used as an identification mark.
throw-ups - "fat" bubble style outline of a word (usually a tag name) drawn quickly.
political or social comments - slogans used to signal concern about particular issues.
piece - generally a more complex work involving some form of "artistry". They are usually a highly stylized and colorful version of a tag or crew name.
etching - scratching of a surface through use of rock, etching tools and/or sharp objects.
love marriages v/s arranged marriages.............
Love vs. Arranged
Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arrange marriages. In India the social structure is such that we associate Indian marriages mainly with arrange marriages. Most of us have the feelings that arrange marriage is the concept of Indian society. But history tells us that arranged marriages use to happen even in the Victorian age. The history of England tells us that most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages. In India arrange marriages originated when child marriages was customary in the country. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn't want their children to marry outside their community and caste. The concept of love marriage was a taboo in ancient India as India always had a tradition of arranged marriages. But after World War II and industrial revolution people's perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. In India the influence of the British culture gave rise to love marriages. The idea, which was once a taboo, became more open and acceptable in the Indian society. But this change was seen only among the educated and high society Indians. The rural parts of the country remained ignorant and unaware of love marriages. In spite of the social changes arranged marriage persisted.Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate on the issue, which one is better. What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? We are still confused about these issues. Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. As people started thinking beyond the social customs and traditions of arranged marriages. They realized that they have the right to choose their life partner without any kind of social pressure. It is after all their life. They can decide without having to rely on parents, relatives and matchmakers. This change in the mental set up of the people gave birth to love marriages. Now in India people are open to love marriages. It is no more forbidden in the society. In our country we are having both love and arranged marriages. If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both has certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concept is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy likes each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend the life together it is important you know the person. There should be metal compatibility and understanding among both of you. And this happens when you spend time together. On this people may argue that even after knowing each other for so long than why people get divorced after marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. As most of the people have an idea that those who go for arranged marriages are not in an advantageous position but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them knows each other so the social pressure and family pressure is less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.Arranged marriages, offer more protection, security to the women. As the parents decides the family. Parents make use of maturity and wise decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The mature decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. So whether it is love or arranged ultimately it is up to the individual to decide, which one to go for. Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.
Whenever we talk of Indian wedding we try to equate it with arrange marriages. In India the social structure is such that we associate Indian marriages mainly with arrange marriages. Most of us have the feelings that arrange marriage is the concept of Indian society. But history tells us that arranged marriages use to happen even in the Victorian age. The history of England tells us that most of the kings and queens had arranged marriages. In India arrange marriages originated when child marriages was customary in the country. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriages, as the upper caste families didn't want their children to marry outside their community and caste. The concept of love marriage was a taboo in ancient India as India always had a tradition of arranged marriages. But after World War II and industrial revolution people's perception started changing and they became familiar with the concept of love marriages. In India the influence of the British culture gave rise to love marriages. The idea, which was once a taboo, became more open and acceptable in the Indian society. But this change was seen only among the educated and high society Indians. The rural parts of the country remained ignorant and unaware of love marriages. In spite of the social changes arranged marriage persisted.Love or arranged marriages is still a debatable topic in the Indian society. People still debate on the issue, which one is better. What should be the basis of the marriage love or social norms? We are still confused about these issues. Education and media played a vital role in changing the perception of the Indian mind. As people started thinking beyond the social customs and traditions of arranged marriages. They realized that they have the right to choose their life partner without any kind of social pressure. It is after all their life. They can decide without having to rely on parents, relatives and matchmakers. This change in the mental set up of the people gave birth to love marriages. Now in India people are open to love marriages. It is no more forbidden in the society. In our country we are having both love and arranged marriages. If we start comparing love and arranged marriages we will see that both has certain pros and cons. But the common factor in both the concept is physical attraction. When a man and a woman go out on their first date physical attraction is the deciding factor. Same in case of arranged marriage where the relation starts only after the girl or boy likes each other. But there are certain things, which are found in love marriages and not in arranged. Like spending time together and getting to know each other. Because when you have decided to spend the life together it is important you know the person. There should be metal compatibility and understanding among both of you. And this happens when you spend time together. On this people may argue that even after knowing each other for so long than why people get divorced after marriage. It is because when two people are in love they are at their best to impress each other. They behave, they talk and they wear what the other person likes. But it is after marriage that you get to know the real person. There are couples who are still discovering each other even after twenty years of their marriage. This is the actual beauty of a relationship where everyday you discover a new thing about your partner.In case of arranged marriages the relation starts when the girl and the boy get to know each other in a couple of meeting before the final commitment. Before deciding anything the parents check the family background and financial stability. Which is also very important. As most of the people have an idea that those who go for arranged marriages are not in an advantageous position but it's not so you may get the right person for whom you have been waiting. Even in love marriages after many years of courtship people find their partner not suitable and they break up. So it is not about spending time together but successful marriage is all about understanding and respecting each other's feelings, love and concern. It is argued that love marriages offer more independence and freedom as compared to arranged marriages since both of them knows each other so the social pressure and family pressure is less. If you know somebody before marriage it allows partners to have better respect and understanding for each other's needs and desires. In love marriages expectations are more compared to arrange marriages, as they know each other and want their partner to act in the best possible manner.Arranged marriages, offer more protection, security to the women. As the parents decides the family. Parents make use of maturity and wise decision while choosing suitable spouses for their children. The mature decision of parents sometimes helps to make the right choice. But it doesn't mean that arranged marriages are ideal marriages. Even in an arranged marriage there is a different sort of social pressure. Social evils like dowry, caste system, matching of horoscopes and community issues are taken at such extreme levels that people don't support arranged marriages. So whether it is love or arranged ultimately it is up to the individual to decide, which one to go for. Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.
Funny Love Quotes
The sincerest love is the love of food.
Bernard Shaw .
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Marrying for love may be a bit risky, but it is so honest that God can't help but smile on it.
Josh Billings
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When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: either the car is new or the wife is.
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Love may be blind but marriage is a real eye-opener! Unknown
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The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What ..does a woman want?''
-- Freud
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Then there was a man who said, "I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; by then it was too late."
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I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.
David Bissonette
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When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him
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Do not marry a man to reform him. That is what reform schools are for."
Mae West
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Love is temporary insanity curable by marriage.
Ambrose Bierce
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Behind every successful man stands a surprised mother-in-law
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Man is better off than woman; he marries later and dies sooner
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Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
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Marriage is the process of finding out what kind of person your spouse would have really preferred
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Bachelors should be heavily taxed. It is not fair that some men should be happier than others.
-Oscar Wilde
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A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished.—
Zsa Zsa Gabor
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My wife and I were happy for 20 years - then we met.
-Rodney Dangerfield
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The most happy marriage I can picture would be the union of a deaf man to a blind woman.
Coleridge
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One good husband is worth two good wives; for the scarcer things are, the more they are valued.
Benjamin Franklin
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.The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. -Henry Youngman
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Whatever you may look like, marry a man your own age - as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight. Phyllis Diller
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If husbands could realize what large returns of profit may be gotten out of a wife by a small word of praise paid over the counter when the market is just right, they would bring matters around the way they wish them much oftener than they usually do.
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If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?
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Arguments are unsafe with wives, because they examine them; but they do not examine compliments. One can pass upon a wife a compliment that is three-fourths base metal; she will not even bite it to see if it is good; all she notices is the size of it, not the quality.Hellfire Hotchkiss
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All tragedies are finished by a death, all comedies by a marriage.
Lord Byron
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"My wife has a slight impediment in her speech. Every now and then she stops to breathe." Jimmy Durante.
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Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed. -- Albert Einstein - Funny Love Quotes
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Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering. Anonymous
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Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to his success. -- Jim Backus
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Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who'll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you're in the wrong house, that's what it means." George Burns.
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Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close knit family in another city." George Burns.
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I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn't." Patrick Murray.
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In my house I'm the boss, my wife is just the decision maker." Woody Allen.
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthdayis to forget it once
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Yawn - Nature's way of letting married men open their mouths
Anon
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I married Miss Right. I just didn't know her first name was Always.
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I asked my wife where she wanted to go for our anniversary. "Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!" she said.So I suggested the kitchen.
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Marriage is not a word; it is a sentence
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A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
Milton Berle
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A wife is someone who'll stand by you through all the trouble you wouldn't have had if you'd stayed single.
The sincerest love is the love of food.
Bernard Shaw .
***********
Marrying for love may be a bit risky, but it is so honest that God can't help but smile on it.
Josh Billings
***********
When a man opens the door of his car for his wife, you can be sure of one thing: either the car is new or the wife is.
***********
Love may be blind but marriage is a real eye-opener! Unknown
***********
The great question... which I have not been able to answer... is, "What ..does a woman want?''
-- Freud
***********
Then there was a man who said, "I never knew what real happiness was until I got married; by then it was too late."
***********
I recently read that love is entirely a matter of chemistry. That must be why my wife treats me like toxic waste.
David Bissonette
***********
When a woman steals your husband, there is no better revenge than to let her keep him
***********
Do not marry a man to reform him. That is what reform schools are for."
Mae West
***********
Love is temporary insanity curable by marriage.
Ambrose Bierce
***********
Behind every successful man stands a surprised mother-in-law
***********
Man is better off than woman; he marries later and dies sooner
***********
Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
***********
Marriage is the process of finding out what kind of person your spouse would have really preferred
***********
Bachelors should be heavily taxed. It is not fair that some men should be happier than others.
-Oscar Wilde
***********
A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished.—
Zsa Zsa Gabor
***********
My wife and I were happy for 20 years - then we met.
-Rodney Dangerfield
***********
The most happy marriage I can picture would be the union of a deaf man to a blind woman.
Coleridge
***********
One good husband is worth two good wives; for the scarcer things are, the more they are valued.
Benjamin Franklin
***********
.The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret. -Henry Youngman
***********
Whatever you may look like, marry a man your own age - as your beauty fades, so will his eyesight. Phyllis Diller
***********
If husbands could realize what large returns of profit may be gotten out of a wife by a small word of praise paid over the counter when the market is just right, they would bring matters around the way they wish them much oftener than they usually do.
***********
If love is the answer, could you rephrase the question?
***********
Arguments are unsafe with wives, because they examine them; but they do not examine compliments. One can pass upon a wife a compliment that is three-fourths base metal; she will not even bite it to see if it is good; all she notices is the size of it, not the quality.Hellfire Hotchkiss
***********
All tragedies are finished by a death, all comedies by a marriage.
Lord Byron
***********
"My wife has a slight impediment in her speech. Every now and then she stops to breathe." Jimmy Durante.
***********
Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed. -- Albert Einstein - Funny Love Quotes
***********
Marriage is a three ring circus: engagement ring, wedding ring, and suffering. Anonymous
***********
Many a man owes his success to his first wife and his second wife to his success. -- Jim Backus
***********
Do you know what it means to come home at night to a woman who'll give you a little love, a little affection, a little tenderness? It means you're in the wrong house, that's what it means." George Burns.
***********
Happiness is having a large, loving, caring, close knit family in another city." George Burns.
***********
I've had bad luck with both my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn't." Patrick Murray.
***********
In my house I'm the boss, my wife is just the decision maker." Woody Allen.
The most effective way to remember your wife's birthdayis to forget it once
***********
Yawn - Nature's way of letting married men open their mouths
Anon
***********
I married Miss Right. I just didn't know her first name was Always.
***********
I asked my wife where she wanted to go for our anniversary. "Somewhere I haven't been in a long time!" she said.So I suggested the kitchen.
***********
Marriage is not a word; it is a sentence
***********
A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.
Milton Berle
***********
A wife is someone who'll stand by you through all the trouble you wouldn't have had if you'd stayed single.
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